Releasing the Past 往事如煙

導(dǎo)讀：你是否為你曾經(jīng)做過的事，或失敗的事而對自己耿耿于懷？

每個人都會在某種程度上有過這種經(jīng)歷。然而，如果你想要一種成功而積極的生活，學(xué)會釋懷過去，不要為已經(jīng)發(fā)生且無法改變的過去而責(zé)備自己，這一點是非常必要的。

讓我們視過去為一種學(xué)習(xí)經(jīng)驗，和邁向未來成功的跳板。

Do you condemn yourself for things which you did--or failed to do--in the past? Everyone does this at some point. However, if you want to lead a successful and productive life, it is imperative that you release the past and not blame yourself for events which have already transpired and which cannot be changed.

你是否為你曾經(jīng)做過的事，或失敗的事而對自己耿耿于懷？每個人都會在某種程度上有過這種經(jīng)歷。然而，如果你想要一種成功而積極的生活，學(xué)會釋懷過去，不要為已經(jīng)發(fā)生且無法改變的過去而責(zé)備自己，這一點是非常必要的

The successful person takes this approach: Learn from past mistakes and make adjustments in future behavior. The strategy of berating yourself for past conduct solves nothing and only serves to lower your self-esteem. You create a vicious cycle where negative experiences and negative feelings are reinforced, which leads to more negative outcomes and more negative feelings.

大凡成功的人都會采取這種作法：從過去的錯誤中吸取經(jīng)驗教訓(xùn)，并為將來的行為作適當(dāng)?shù)恼{(diào)整。為過去的行為而責(zé)備自己的這種方式并不能解決任何問題，只能挫敗你的自尊心。你因此而制造了一個惡性循環(huán)，消積的經(jīng)歷和感受并再次被強化，同時導(dǎo)致了更多的惡性結(jié)果和消積的情感。

If you insist on dwelling in the past, I suggest that you focus on your past successes. Visualizing and thinking about past successes is an excellent way to build confidence and self-esteem. What you think about is what you become. Therefore, when you concentrate on your successes, you help to create future successes.

如果你堅持沉湎于過去，我建議你多想想你過去的成功。回憶過去的成功是重建信心和自尊的很好方式。你所想象的也就是你會最終成為的。因此，當(dāng)你集中精力思考成功時，你也正在創(chuàng)造將來的成功。

When you find yourself starting to dwell on past negative experiences, immediately halt and remind yourself: "There is nothing I can do now which will change what happened. I learned a valuable lesson and will act in a more constructive manner next time."

當(dāng)你發(fā)現(xiàn)自己開始沉湎于過去的消積經(jīng)歷時，立即停止，并提醒自己：“我現(xiàn)在這么做并不能改變已經(jīng)發(fā)生了的過去。我從過去中收獲了寶貴的經(jīng)驗，并將會以更積極地態(tài)度去面對人生?！?/P>

Regardless of what you have done--or failed to do--the only sane approach is to accept it and move forward.

不管你曾做過什么，有過何失敗，唯一理智的方式是接受你的過去，并積極前進。